RED FLAG #9: If you spouse has gained more than 20% of his or her body weight, you may be headed for divorce. In every marriage, it is important for each spouse to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Part of keeping the passion alive is maintaining the physical presence that attracted your spouse to you in the first place. When one spouse no longer cares about his or her appearance, the other spouse can lost interest quickly. The old adage of “what it takes to get her, it takes to keep her” is actually true.